Category: loneliness

For I myself am best when least in company.

My
mind observes loneliness, and avoids it, runs away from it. But if I do
not run away from it, is there a division, is there a separation, is
there an observer watching loneliness? Or, is there only a state of
loneliness, my mind itself being empty, lonely? Not that there is an
observer who knows that there is loneliness. I think this is important
to grasp, swiftly, not verbalizing too much. We say now “I am envious,
and I want to get rid of envy,” so there is an observer and the
observed; the observer wishes to get rid of that which he observes. But
is the observer not the same as the observed? It is the mind itself that
has created the envy, and so the mind cannot do anything about envy.
So, my mind observes loneliness; the thinker is aware that he is lonely
But by remaining with it, being fully in contact, which is, not to run
away from it, not to translate and all the rest of it, then, is there a
difference between the observer and the observed? Or is there only one
state, which is, the mind itself is lonely, empty? Not that the mind
observes itself as being empty, but mind itself is empty. Then, can the
mind, being aware that it itself is empty, and that whatever its
endeavor, any movement away from that emptiness is merely an escape, a
dependence, can the mind put away all dependence and be what it is,
completely empty, completely lonely? And if it is in that state, is
there not freedom from all dependence, from all attachment?

– Jiddu Krishanmurti – The Book of Life

Usually we regard loneliness as an enemy. Heartache is not something we choose to invite in. It’s restless and pregnant and hot with the desire to escape and find something or someone to keep us company. When we can rest in the middle, we begin to have a nonthreatening relationship with loneliness, a relaxing and cooling loneliness that completely turns our usual fearful patterns upside down.

spiritualgateway:

One of the factors of sorrow is the
extraordinary loneliness of man. You may have companions, you may have
gods, you may have a great deal of knowledge, you may be extraordinarily
active socially, talking endless gossip about politics -and most
politicians gossip anyhow- and still this loneliness remains. Therefore,
man seeks to find significance in life and invents a significance, a
meaning. But the loneliness still remains. So can you look at it without
any comparison, just see it as it is, without trying to run away from
it, without trying to cover it up, or to escape from it? Then you will
see that loneliness becomes something entirely different.
We are not
alone. We are the result of a thousand influences, a thousand
conditionings, psychological inheritances, propaganda, culture. We are
not alone, and therefore we are secondhand human beings. When one is
alone, totally alone, neither belonging to any family, though one may
have a family, nor belonging to any nation, to any culture, to any
particular commitment, there is the sense of being an outsider, outsider
to every form of thought, action, family, nation. And it is only the
one who is completely alone who is innocent. It is this innocency that
frees the mind from sorrow.

– Jiddu Krishnamurti, The Book of Life

Although the warrior’s life is dedicated to helping others, he realizes that he will never be able to completely share his experience with others…Yet he is more and more in love with the world. That combination of love affair and loneliness is what enables the warrior to constantly reach out to help others. By renouncing his private world, the warrior discovers a greater universe and a fuller and fuller broken heart. This is not something to feel bad about; it is a cause for rejoicing.

If you go deeper and deeper into your own heart, you’ll be living in a world with less fear, isolation and loneliness.

spiritualgateway:

One of the factors of sorrow is the
extraordinary loneliness of man. You may have companions, you may have
gods, you may have a great deal of knowledge, you may be extraordinarily
active socially, talking endless gossip about politics -and most
politicians gossip anyhow- and still this loneliness remains. Therefore,
man seeks to find significance in life and invents a significance, a
meaning. But the loneliness still remains. So can you look at it without
any comparison, just see it as it is, without trying to run away from
it, without trying to cover it up, or to escape from it? Then you will
see that loneliness becomes something entirely different.
We are not
alone. We are the result of a thousand influences, a thousand
conditionings, psychological inheritances, propaganda, culture. We are
not alone, and therefore we are secondhand human beings. When one is
alone, totally alone, neither belonging to any family, though one may
have a family, nor belonging to any nation, to any culture, to any
particular commitment, there is the sense of being an outsider, outsider
to every form of thought, action, family, nation. And it is only the
one who is completely alone who is innocent. It is this innocency that
frees the mind from sorrow.

– Jiddu Krishnamurti, The Book of Life

Loneliness is entirely different from
aloneness. That loneliness must be passed to be alone. Loneliness is not
comparable with aloneness. The man who knows loneliness can never know
that which is alone. Are you in that state of aloneness? Our minds are
not integrated to be alone. The very process of the mind is separative.
And that which separates knows loneliness.
But aloneness is not
separative. It is something that is not the many, which is not
influenced by the many, which is not the result of the many, which is
not put together as the mind is; the mind is of the many. Mind is not an
entity that is alone, being put together, brought together,
manufactured through centuries. Mind can never be alone. Mind can never
know aloneness. But being aware of the loneliness when going through it,
there comes into being that aloneness. Then only can there be that
which is immeasurable. Unfortunately most of us seek dependence. We want
companions, we want friends, we want to live in a state of separation,
in a state that brings about conflict. That which is alone can never be
in a state of conflict. But mind can never perceive that, can never
understand that, it can only know loneliness.

– Jiddu Krishnamurti, The Book of Life

Though we are all human beings, we have
built walls between ourselves and our neighbors through nationalism,
through race, caste, and class -which again breeds isolation,
loneliness.
Now a mind that is caught in loneliness, in this state of
isolation, can never possibly understand what religion is. It can
believe, it can have certain theories, concepts, formulas, it can try to
identify itself with that which it calls God; but religion, it seems to
me, has nothing whatsoever to do with any belief, with any priest, with
any church or so-called sacred book. The state of the religious mind
can be understood only when we begin to understand what beauty is; and
the understanding of beauty must be approached through total aloneness.
Only when the mind is completely alone can it know what is beauty, and
not in any other state.
Aloneness is obviously not isolation, and it
is not uniqueness. To be unique is merely to be exceptional in some way,
whereas to be completely alone demands extraordinary sensitivity,
intelligence, understanding. To be completely alone implies that the
mind is free of every kind of influence and is therefore uncontaminated
by society; and it must be alone to understand what is religion- which
is to find out for oneself whether there is something immortal, beyond
time.

– Jiddu Krishnamurti, The Book of Life

I do not know if you have ever been lonely;
when you suddenly realize that you have no relationship with anybody
-not an intellectual realization but a factual realization- and you are
completely isolated. Every form of thought and emotion is blocked; you
cannot turn anywhere; there is nobody to turn to; the gods, the angels,
have all gone beyond the clouds and, as the clouds vanish they have also
vanished; you are completely lonely -I will not use the word alone.
Alone
has quiet a different meaning; alone has beauty. To be alone means
something entirely different. And you must be alone. When man frees
himself from the social structure of greed, envy, ambition, arrogance,
achievement, status, when he frees himself from those, then he is
completely alone. That is quite a different thing. Then there is great
beauty, the feeling of great energy.

– Jiddu Krishnamurti, The Book of Life